Post by Cassie on Mar 10, 2008 16:06:30 GMT -5
The natural reactions of most stalking victims, however, aggravate the problem and increase the likelihood of violence. Case after case reveals the same patterns:
Victims deny the problem.
Then they try to bargain with their stalker, even agreeing to meet with him/her "that one last time" thereby establishing a dangerous precedent of allowing him to control their actions.
Anxiety sets in. Never knowing when or where he's going to turn up or what he's going to do next, they can think of little else. Victims start to short-circuit mentally and emotionally.
Exhaustion follows, along with profound depression. Then self-esteem starts to disintegrate.
Victims start to blame themselves.
Eventually, they get angry, so angry that they're ready to do almost anything to get the stalker out of their life.
Finally, they accept what life has become. Only then can the victim start to deal with the situation objectively.
The stalking victim - rather than the stalker - is the person whose behavior has to change (since the stalker certainly won't). It's not fair, and most people don't like hearing this. But if you want to protect yourself and your loved ones, it is reality.
Victims deny the problem.
Then they try to bargain with their stalker, even agreeing to meet with him/her "that one last time" thereby establishing a dangerous precedent of allowing him to control their actions.
Anxiety sets in. Never knowing when or where he's going to turn up or what he's going to do next, they can think of little else. Victims start to short-circuit mentally and emotionally.
Exhaustion follows, along with profound depression. Then self-esteem starts to disintegrate.
Victims start to blame themselves.
Eventually, they get angry, so angry that they're ready to do almost anything to get the stalker out of their life.
Finally, they accept what life has become. Only then can the victim start to deal with the situation objectively.
The stalking victim - rather than the stalker - is the person whose behavior has to change (since the stalker certainly won't). It's not fair, and most people don't like hearing this. But if you want to protect yourself and your loved ones, it is reality.